29 Books like Not Nice

The Disease to Please

by Harriet B. Braiker • 2000

Why needing everyone's approval works like an addiction, and the protocol for breaking free.

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2k+

🎭 People-Pleasing 💉 Approval Addiction 🧱 Boundary Setting 🧠 Cognitive Behavioral 🗣️ Assertiveness Training

The Disease to Please 97%

Why needing everyone's approval works like an addiction, and the protocol for breaking free.

by Harriet B. Braiker 2000

3.89

2k+ ratings

🎭 People-Pleasing 💉 Approval Addiction 🧱 Boundary Setting 🧠 Cognitive Behavioral 🗣️ Assertiveness Training

Too Nice for Your Own Good

by Duke Robinson • 1997

Nice people finish drained, resentful, and overlooked. Specific skills that break the pattern.

3.46

2k+

🎭 People Pleasing 🚧 Interpersonal Boundaries 🗣️ Assertiveness Training 💬 Emotional Honesty 😤 Anger Management

Too Nice for Your Own Good 97%

Nice people finish drained, resentful, and overlooked. Specific skills that break the pattern.

by Duke Robinson 1997

3.46

2k+ ratings

🎭 People Pleasing 🚧 Interpersonal Boundaries 🗣️ Assertiveness Training 💬 Emotional Honesty 😤 Anger Management

Setting Boundaries That Stick

by Juliane Taylor Shore • 2023

Boundaries fail when you feel unsafe. Rewire your brain's threat response, and the words stick.

4.32

260

🧱 Boundary Setting 🧠 Interpersonal Neurobiology 💗 Self-Compassion 🧘 Emotional Regulation 🤲 Somatic Practices

Setting Boundaries That Stick 97%

Boundaries fail when you feel unsafe. Rewire your brain's threat response, and the words stick.

by Juliane Taylor Shore 2023

4.32

260 ratings

🧱 Boundary Setting 🧠 Interpersonal Neurobiology 💗 Self-Compassion 🧘 Emotional Regulation 🤲 Somatic Practices

Stop People Pleasing

by Patrick King • 2018

You've trained people to expect your yes. Here is the retraining program, starting with two words.

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1k+

🙇 People Pleasing 🗣️ Assertiveness Training 🧱 Boundary Setting 😰 Fear Of Rejection 💪 Self Worth

Stop People Pleasing 97%

You've trained people to expect your yes. Here is the retraining program, starting with two words.

by Patrick King 2018

3.84

1k+ ratings

🙇 People Pleasing 🗣️ Assertiveness Training 🧱 Boundary Setting 😰 Fear Of Rejection 💪 Self Worth

Make Change That Lasts (B&W Illustrations)

by Rangan Chatterjee • 2024

The habits you cannot break are not the real problem. Nine ways to find what is.

4.06

2k+

🧘 Inner Work 🔄 Behavior Change 🎭 People Pleasing 🚧 Setting Boundaries 🕊️ Forgiveness Practice

Make Change That Lasts (B&W Illustrations) Summary

Make Change That Lasts (B&W Illustrations) 97%

The habits you cannot break are not the real problem. Nine ways to find what is.

by Rangan Chatterjee 2024

4.06

2k+ ratings

🧘 Inner Work 🔄 Behavior Change 🎭 People Pleasing 🚧 Setting Boundaries 🕊️ Forgiveness Practice

The Joy of Being Selfish

by Michelle Elman • 2021

What if putting yourself first was the most generous move? Boundaries without the guilt spiral.

4.18

2k+

🚧 Boundary Setting 🎭 People Pleasing 🗣️ Assertiveness Training 🧘 Self-Care Practices 💭 Emotional Processing

The Joy of Being Selfish 97%

What if putting yourself first was the most generous move? Boundaries without the guilt spiral.

by Michelle Elman 2021

4.18

2k+ ratings

🚧 Boundary Setting 🎭 People Pleasing 🗣️ Assertiveness Training 🧘 Self-Care Practices 💭 Emotional Processing

How to Stop Breaking Your Own Heart

by Meggan Roxanne • 2024

Your worst relationship is with yourself. The way out: stop treating your own needs as negotiable.

3.68

2k+

🙇 People Pleasing 🚧 Boundary Setting 💔 Self Sabotage 💖 Self Compassion ✨ Authentic Living

How to Stop Breaking Your Own Heart Summary

How to Stop Breaking Your Own Heart 96%

Your worst relationship is with yourself. The way out: stop treating your own needs as negotiable.

by Meggan Roxanne 2024

3.68

2k+ ratings

🙇 People Pleasing 🚧 Boundary Setting 💔 Self Sabotage 💖 Self Compassion ✨ Authentic Living

The Art of Everyday Assertiveness

by Patrick King • 2018

Counter-moves for emotional blackmail, guilt, and the daily drills that make saying no feel natural.

3.94

540

🗣️ Assertiveness Training 🚧 Boundary Setting 🙅 Saying No 🎭 Emotional Manipulation 😊 People Pleasing

The Art of Everyday Assertiveness Summary

The Art of Everyday Assertiveness 96%

Counter-moves for emotional blackmail, guilt, and the daily drills that make saying no feel natural.

by Patrick King 2018

3.94

540 ratings

🗣️ Assertiveness Training 🚧 Boundary Setting 🙅 Saying No 🎭 Emotional Manipulation 😊 People Pleasing

The Book of Boundaries

by Melissa Urban • 2022

Scripts for the hard talks: drawing boundaries with others, and the rules you need for yourself.

4.13

7k+

🛡️ Healthy Boundaries 💪 Assertiveness Training 🙅 People Pleasing Recovery 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 Family Boundaries 🗣️ Communication Skills

The Book of Boundaries 96%

Scripts for the hard talks: drawing boundaries with others, and the rules you need for yourself.

by Melissa Urban 2022

4.13

7k+ ratings

🛡️ Healthy Boundaries 💪 Assertiveness Training 🙅 People Pleasing Recovery 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 Family Boundaries 🗣️ Communication Skills

I Love Me More

by Jenna Banks • 2022

A skill, not a feeling: how daily self-love rebuilds your boundaries, career, and finances.

3.78

446

❤️ Self-Love 🚧 Boundary Setting 🛡️ Emotional Resilience 🧠 Inner Critic 🎭 People Pleasing

I Love Me More 96%

A skill, not a feeling: how daily self-love rebuilds your boundaries, career, and finances.

by Jenna Banks 2022

3.78

446 ratings

❤️ Self-Love 🚧 Boundary Setting 🛡️ Emotional Resilience 🧠 Inner Critic 🎭 People Pleasing

Cómo mandar a la mierda de forma educada

by Alba Cardalda • 2023

Stop being a yes person. A psychologist's step-by-step system for boundaries that actually hold.

3.88

3k+

🧱 Boundary Setting 🗣️ Assertiveness Training 🎭 People Pleasing ⚠️ Toxic Relationships 😔 Guilt And Shame

Cómo mandar a la mierda de forma educada Summary

Cómo mandar a la mierda de forma educada 96%

Stop being a yes person. A psychologist's step-by-step system for boundaries that actually hold.

by Alba Cardalda 2023

3.88

3k+ ratings

🧱 Boundary Setting 🗣️ Assertiveness Training 🎭 People Pleasing ⚠️ Toxic Relationships 😔 Guilt And Shame

Why Do I Keep Doing This?

by Kati Morton • 2025

The habits keeping you stuck began as childhood armor. A therapist's guide to putting them down.

3.69

347

🌀 Self-Sabotage 🎯 Perfectionism Recovery 🙇 People Pleasing 🚧 Boundary Setting 🧒 Childhood Trauma

Why Do I Keep Doing This? 96%

The habits keeping you stuck began as childhood armor. A therapist's guide to putting them down.

by Kati Morton 2025

3.69

347 ratings

🌀 Self-Sabotage 🎯 Perfectionism Recovery 🙇 People Pleasing 🚧 Boundary Setting 🧒 Childhood Trauma

On Self-Hatred

by The School of Life • 2022

A quiet self-hatred, not low self-worth, drives perfectionism. The fix is not love but acceptance.

4.26

552

🧸 Childhood Trauma 🎯 Perfectionism 🎭 People Pleasing 🗣️ Inner Critic 💖 Self-Compassion

On Self-Hatred 96%

A quiet self-hatred, not low self-worth, drives perfectionism. The fix is not love but acceptance.

by The School of Life 2022

4.26

552 ratings

🧸 Childhood Trauma 🎯 Perfectionism 🎭 People Pleasing 🗣️ Inner Critic 💖 Self-Compassion

Your Perfect Right

by Robert Alberti • 1970

How to say what you need, refuse what you don't, and keep the relationship intact.

3.68

623

🗣️ Assertiveness Training 🚧 Boundary Setting 💬 Communication Skills 😰 Anxiety Management 👀 Nonverbal Communication

Your Perfect Right 96%

How to say what you need, refuse what you don't, and keep the relationship intact.

by Robert Alberti 1970

3.68

623 ratings

🗣️ Assertiveness Training 🚧 Boundary Setting 💬 Communication Skills 😰 Anxiety Management 👀 Nonverbal Communication

Assertiveness

by Judy Murphy • 2011

Say no. Ask for what you want. Push back. Do it all without losing anyone's respect.

3.8

733

🗣️ Assertiveness Training 🚧 Boundary Setting 🧍 Body Language 💎 Self Worth 🎭 People Pleasing

Assertiveness 96%

Say no. Ask for what you want. Push back. Do it all without losing anyone's respect.

by Judy Murphy 2011

3.8

733 ratings

🗣️ Assertiveness Training 🚧 Boundary Setting 🧍 Body Language 💎 Self Worth 🎭 People Pleasing

Are You Mad at Me?

by Meg Josephson • 2025

You were trained to scan every room for anger. That wiring can be changed.

4.37

14k+

🧎 People Pleasing 🩹 Trauma Recovery 🧠 Trauma Responses 🌿 Nervous System Regulation 🪑 Internal Family Systems

Are You Mad at Me? 96%

You were trained to scan every room for anger. That wiring can be changed.

by Meg Josephson 2025

4.37

14k+ ratings

🧎 People Pleasing 🩹 Trauma Recovery 🧠 Trauma Responses 🌿 Nervous System Regulation 🪑 Internal Family Systems

Get Out of Your Own Way

by Mark Goulston • 1996

The self-sabotaging loops that make you quit, comply, and lash out, and how to dismantle them.

3.73

3k+

🪤 Self-Sabotage Patterns 🧠 Cognitive Behavioral Techniques 🎭 People Pleasing 😡 Anger Management ⚖️ Social Comparison

Get Out of Your Own Way 96%

The self-sabotaging loops that make you quit, comply, and lash out, and how to dismantle them.

by Mark Goulston 1996

3.73

3k+ ratings

🪤 Self-Sabotage Patterns 🧠 Cognitive Behavioral Techniques 🎭 People Pleasing 😡 Anger Management ⚖️ Social Comparison

Boundaries

by Henry Cloud • 1995

Say no without losing connection: a biblical path from guilt to freedom.

4.32

1k+

🚧 Boundary Setting 🙇 People Pleasing 🔗 Codependency Recovery ✝️ Christian Boundaries 🏡 Family Of Origin

Boundaries 96%

Say no without losing connection: a biblical path from guilt to freedom.

by Henry Cloud 1995

4.32

1k+ ratings

🚧 Boundary Setting 🙇 People Pleasing 🔗 Codependency Recovery ✝️ Christian Boundaries 🏡 Family Of Origin

Set Boundaries, Find Peace

by Nedra Glover Tawwab • 2021

Saying no scares you more than burnout. A therapist's method for limits that stick.

4.24

38k+

🧱 Boundary Setting 🙇 People Pleasing 🗣️ Assertiveness Training 💚 Relationship Health ⚖️ Work Life Balance

Set Boundaries, Find Peace 96%

Saying no scares you more than burnout. A therapist's method for limits that stick.

by Nedra Glover Tawwab 2021

4.24

38k+ ratings

🧱 Boundary Setting 🙇 People Pleasing 🗣️ Assertiveness Training 💚 Relationship Health ⚖️ Work Life Balance

Generation Anxiety

by Lauren Cook • 2023

Anxiety as reflex, not defect: a survival guide for the generation raised on crisis and comparison.

3.71

245

🧠 Anxiety Management 📱 Generational Anxiety 🚧 Boundary Setting 🎭 People-Pleasing 🌿 Holistic Healing

Generation Anxiety 95%

Anxiety as reflex, not defect: a survival guide for the generation raised on crisis and comparison.

by Lauren Cook 2023

3.71

245 ratings

🧠 Anxiety Management 📱 Generational Anxiety 🚧 Boundary Setting 🎭 People-Pleasing 🌿 Holistic Healing

How to Be an Adult

by David Richo • 1991

Emotional adulthood is a skill set: assertiveness, boundaries, and shadow integration.

4.38

2k+

🧘 Transpersonal Psychology 🧠 Jungian Psychology 🌑 Shadow Work 💪 Assertiveness 🚧 Boundary Setting

How to Be an Adult 95%

Emotional adulthood is a skill set: assertiveness, boundaries, and shadow integration.

by David Richo 1991

4.38

2k+ ratings

🧘 Transpersonal Psychology 🧠 Jungian Psychology 🌑 Shadow Work 💪 Assertiveness 🚧 Boundary Setting

You Do You

by Sarah Knight • 2017

The permission slip for saying no, skipping the party, and finally putting yourself first.

3.62

8k+

🫂 Self-Acceptance 🙃 Anti-Self-Help 🚧 Boundary Setting 🛁 Self-Care 🦄 Nonconformity

You Do You 95%

The permission slip for saying no, skipping the party, and finally putting yourself first.

by Sarah Knight 2017

3.62

8k+ ratings

🫂 Self-Acceptance 🙃 Anti-Self-Help 🚧 Boundary Setting 🛁 Self-Care 🦄 Nonconformity

Conquering Shame and Codependency

by Darlene Lancer • 2014

Shame drives codependency. Eight steps to disarm the inner critic and reclaim the self you lost.

4.22

422

🔗 Codependency Recovery 🩹 Shame Healing 🧠 Inner Critic Work 💬 Vulnerability Practice 🧸 Childhood Trauma

Conquering Shame and Codependency Summary

Conquering Shame and Codependency 95%

Shame drives codependency. Eight steps to disarm the inner critic and reclaim the self you lost.

by Darlene Lancer 2014

4.22

422 ratings

🔗 Codependency Recovery 🩹 Shame Healing 🧠 Inner Critic Work 💬 Vulnerability Practice 🧸 Childhood Trauma

The Assertiveness Guide for Women

by Julie de Azevedo Hanks • 2016

Speak up, set limits, stop people-pleasing. The missing piece is your attachment style.

3.95

907

💬 Women's Assertiveness 🚧 Boundary Setting 🧸 Attachment Theory 🧠 Emotional Intelligence 💖 Self-Compassion

The Assertiveness Guide for Women Summary

The Assertiveness Guide for Women 95%

Speak up, set limits, stop people-pleasing. The missing piece is your attachment style.

by Julie de Azevedo Hanks 2016

3.95

907 ratings

💬 Women's Assertiveness 🚧 Boundary Setting 🧸 Attachment Theory 🧠 Emotional Intelligence 💖 Self-Compassion

The Path Between Us

by Suzanne Stabile • 2018

The nine ways people see the world, and what to do when yours collides with another.

4.12

11k+

🌀 Enneagram 🧩 Personality Frameworks 🤝 Conflict Resolution 💬 Communication Styles 💖 Self-Compassion

The Path Between Us 95%

The nine ways people see the world, and what to do when yours collides with another.

by Suzanne Stabile 2018

4.12

11k+ ratings

🌀 Enneagram 🧩 Personality Frameworks 🤝 Conflict Resolution 💬 Communication Styles 💖 Self-Compassion

Needy

by Mara Glatzel • 2023

Your needs aren't too much. Trust your compass, set boundaries, and stop performing for approval.

4.28

194

❤️ Self-Compassion 🧠 Emotional Needs 🚧 Boundary Setting 🔐 Self-Trust 🌱 Authentic Living

Needy 95%

Your needs aren't too much. Trust your compass, set boundaries, and stop performing for approval.

by Mara Glatzel 2023

4.28

194 ratings

❤️ Self-Compassion 🧠 Emotional Needs 🚧 Boundary Setting 🔐 Self-Trust 🌱 Authentic Living

Introducing Self-Esteem

by David Bonham-Carter • 2012

Low self-esteem is learned, not innate. The CBT toolkit for rewriting the story.

3.84

108

💎 Self-Worth Building 🔗 Limiting Belief Work 🤗 Self-Compassion Practice 🗣️ Assertiveness Training 🧘 Mindfulness Practice

Introducing Self-Esteem 95%

Low self-esteem is learned, not innate. The CBT toolkit for rewriting the story.

by David Bonham-Carter 2012

3.84

108 ratings

💎 Self-Worth Building 🔗 Limiting Belief Work 🤗 Self-Compassion Practice 🗣️ Assertiveness Training 🧘 Mindfulness Practice

Freedom from Your Inner Critic

by Jay Earley • 2013

Your inner critic is really a protector. Unblend from its attacks and transform its role.

3.87

209

🧩 Internal Family Systems 👹 Inner Critic 💗 Self-Compassion 🧒 Childhood Healing 🗣️ Negative Self-Talk

Freedom from Your Inner Critic 95%

Your inner critic is really a protector. Unblend from its attacks and transform its role.

by Jay Earley 2013

3.87

209 ratings

🧩 Internal Family Systems 👹 Inner Critic 💗 Self-Compassion 🧒 Childhood Healing 🗣️ Negative Self-Talk

Everything Isn't Terrible

by Kathleen Smith • 2019

Your anxiety isn't a defect. It's a pattern you can observe, interrupt, and outgrow.

4.06

2k+

🧘 Anxiety Management 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 Family Systems 🎛️ Emotional Regulation 🪞 Internal Validation 🚧 Emotional Boundaries

Everything Isn't Terrible 95%

Your anxiety isn't a defect. It's a pattern you can observe, interrupt, and outgrow.

by Kathleen Smith 2019

4.06

2k+ ratings

🧘 Anxiety Management 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 Family Systems 🎛️ Emotional Regulation 🪞 Internal Validation 🚧 Emotional Boundaries

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