Sexual Norms Books | Summaries & Audio

Ace

by Angela Chen • 2020

The world assumes everyone wants sex. Asexuality reveals what that assumption costs all of us.

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📘 Asexuality Studies 🌈 Queer Theory 📏 Sexual Normativity 🤝 Non-Sexual Intimacy 🛡️ Consent Culture

Ace 90%

The world assumes everyone wants sex. Asexuality reveals what that assumption costs all of us.

by Angela Chen 2020

4.34

20k+ ratings

📘 Asexuality Studies 🌈 Queer Theory 📏 Sexual Normativity 🤝 Non-Sexual Intimacy 🛡️ Consent Culture

Girls & Sex

by Peggy Orenstein • 2016

Girls learn to perform sex before they want it. Orenstein asked 70 of them why.

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👯 Sexual Double Standards 🎓 Hookup Culture 🪞 Body Image ✋ Consent Culture ⛪ Purity Culture

Girls & Sex 90%

Girls learn to perform sex before they want it. Orenstein asked 70 of them why.

by Peggy Orenstein 2016

4.07

11k+ ratings

👯 Sexual Double Standards 🎓 Hookup Culture 🪞 Body Image ✋ Consent Culture ⛪ Purity Culture

A Return to Modesty

by Wendy Shalit • 1998

The sexual revolution's casualties are women, and the way back is the virtue it mocked.

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🔄 Sexual Revolution Critique 🛡️ Protecting Girlhood 🧱 Emotional Boundaries 🚫 Hookup Culture ⚧️ Sex Differences

A Return to Modesty 90%

The sexual revolution's casualties are women, and the way back is the virtue it mocked.

by Wendy Shalit 1998

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🔄 Sexual Revolution Critique 🛡️ Protecting Girlhood 🧱 Emotional Boundaries 🚫 Hookup Culture ⚧️ Sex Differences

Rethinking Sex

by Christine Emba • 2022

Consent was meant to be enough. It isn't. Why sex needs an older, more demanding rule.

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🧭 Sexual Ethics 📱 Hookup Culture ⚖️ Consent Critique 😞 Sexual Dissatisfaction 👫 Heterosexual Dynamics

Rethinking Sex 90%

Consent was meant to be enough. It isn't. Why sex needs an older, more demanding rule.

by Christine Emba 2022

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1k+ ratings

🧭 Sexual Ethics 📱 Hookup Culture ⚖️ Consent Critique 😞 Sexual Dissatisfaction 👫 Heterosexual Dynamics

The Psychology of Sex

by Meg John Barker • 2018

Sexuality runs on spectrums, not switches. Culture writes the script your body follows.

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🧠 Sexual Psychology 🔍 Critical Psychology 🏗️ Social Constructionism 🌈 Sexual Diversity 🤝 Consent Culture

The Psychology of Sex 90%

Sexuality runs on spectrums, not switches. Culture writes the script your body follows.

by Meg John Barker 2018

3.88

185 ratings

🧠 Sexual Psychology 🔍 Critical Psychology 🏗️ Social Constructionism 🌈 Sexual Diversity 🤝 Consent Culture

Is It Ever Just Sex?

by Darian Leader • 2023

A psychoanalyst argues sex is not about pleasure: a stage for infantile anxieties, guilt, and power.

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📚 Psychoanalytic Theory 🌍 Sex And Culture 👶 Childhood Sexuality 😈 Guilt And Desire 🚻 Heteronormativity

Is It Ever Just Sex? 89%

A psychoanalyst argues sex is not about pleasure: a stage for infantile anxieties, guilt, and power.

by Darian Leader 2023

3.37

479 ratings

📚 Psychoanalytic Theory 🌍 Sex And Culture 👶 Childhood Sexuality 😈 Guilt And Desire 🚻 Heteronormativity

Sex by Numbers

by David Spiegelhalter • 2015

Sex surveys are performances. A statistician reveals what the data hides about modern desire.

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🔄 Modern Sexuality 🔬 Sex Research 💥 Debunking Myths 📊 Statistical Literacy 📈 Popular Statistics

Sex by Numbers 89%

Sex surveys are performances. A statistician reveals what the data hides about modern desire.

by David Spiegelhalter 2015

3.84

213 ratings

🔄 Modern Sexuality 🔬 Sex Research 💥 Debunking Myths 📊 Statistical Literacy 📈 Popular Statistics

Adam and Eve After the Pill

by Mary Eberstadt • 2012

The sexual revolution promised freedom but delivered misery to women, children, and the poor.

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🏴 Sexual Revolution ✝️ Catholic Social Thought 🔗 Hookup Culture 🏛️ Cultural Conservatism 💔 Decline Of Marriage

Adam and Eve After the Pill 89%

The sexual revolution promised freedom but delivered misery to women, children, and the poor.

by Mary Eberstadt 2012

3.95

512 ratings

🏴 Sexual Revolution ✝️ Catholic Social Thought 🔗 Hookup Culture 🏛️ Cultural Conservatism 💔 Decline Of Marriage

Tomorrow Sex Will Be Good Again

by Katherine Angel • 2021

Consent asks women to know what they want before anything starts. Desire doesn't work that way.

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🏛️ Sexual Ethics 🔍 Consent Critique 🌺 Female Desire 🫂 Sexual Vulnerability 🌓 Sexual Ambivalence

Tomorrow Sex Will Be Good Again 89%

Consent asks women to know what they want before anything starts. Desire doesn't work that way.

by Katherine Angel 2021

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6k+ ratings

🏛️ Sexual Ethics 🔍 Consent Critique 🌺 Female Desire 🫂 Sexual Vulnerability 🌓 Sexual Ambivalence

The Manipulated Man

by Esther Vilar • 1971

Women trade sex for lifelong security; men mistake their chains for love. The 1971 polemic.

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🔄 Gender Roles 💋 Sexual Politics ⚔️ Anti-Feminism ♂️ Men's Rights ⚡ Power Dynamics

The Manipulated Man 89%

Women trade sex for lifelong security; men mistake their chains for love. The 1971 polemic.

by Esther Vilar 1971

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2k+ ratings

🔄 Gender Roles 💋 Sexual Politics ⚔️ Anti-Feminism ♂️ Men's Rights ⚡ Power Dynamics

The Misfits

by Colin Wilson • 1988

De Sade, Byron, and the 'perverts' who followed weren't just deviants but mystics chasing intensity.

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🔗 Sexual Deviance 🧠 Philosophy Of Sex 📜 Cultural History 📚 Literary Criticism 🧍 Existential Psychology

The Misfits 89%

De Sade, Byron, and the 'perverts' who followed weren't just deviants but mystics chasing intensity.

by Colin Wilson 1988

3.69

121 ratings

🔗 Sexual Deviance 🧠 Philosophy Of Sex 📜 Cultural History 📚 Literary Criticism 🧍 Existential Psychology

The Purity Myth

by Jessica Valenti • 2009

The virginity movement teaches shame as science, then codifies it. Real women bear the cost.

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🏛️ Purity Culture ✊ Body Autonomy 💪 Toxic Masculinity 🎯 Victim Blaming ⚖️ Sexual Ethics

The Purity Myth 89%

The virginity movement teaches shame as science, then codifies it. Real women bear the cost.

by Jessica Valenti 2009

4.08

9k+ ratings

🏛️ Purity Culture ✊ Body Autonomy 💪 Toxic Masculinity 🎯 Victim Blaming ⚖️ Sexual Ethics

The Feminist Porn Book

by Tristan Taormino • 2012

Feminism's porn war: dispatches from the women who chose cameras over censorship.

3.98

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🎬 Feminist Film 📖 Porn Studies ✊ Sex Worker Rights 🗣️ Sex-Positive Feminism 🖼️ Sexual Representation

The Feminist Porn Book 89%

Feminism's porn war: dispatches from the women who chose cameras over censorship.

by Tristan Taormino 2012

3.98

636 ratings

🎬 Feminist Film 📖 Porn Studies ✊ Sex Worker Rights 🗣️ Sex-Positive Feminism 🖼️ Sexual Representation

Non-Toxic Masculinity

by Zachary Wagner • 2023

Purity culture delivered shame, not great sex. A path back to healthy sexuality, modeled on Christ.

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🤍 Purity Culture ⛪ Christian Sexuality 💔 Sexual Shame 💪 Healthy Masculinity 👥 Gender Roles

Non-Toxic Masculinity 89%

Purity culture delivered shame, not great sex. A path back to healthy sexuality, modeled on Christ.

by Zachary Wagner 2023

4.27

412 ratings

🤍 Purity Culture ⛪ Christian Sexuality 💔 Sexual Shame 💪 Healthy Masculinity 👥 Gender Roles

Untrue

by Wednesday Martin • 2018

The plough, not biology, invented female monogamy. Inside the science that rewrites female lust.

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🦋 Female Sexuality 💔 Infidelity 🔓 Non-Monogamy 🏛️ Origins Of Patriarchy 🙊 Sexual Stigma

Untrue 89%

The plough, not biology, invented female monogamy. Inside the science that rewrites female lust.

by Wednesday Martin 2018

3.86

2k+ ratings

🦋 Female Sexuality 💔 Infidelity 🔓 Non-Monogamy 🏛️ Origins Of Patriarchy 🙊 Sexual Stigma

Pornland

by Gail Dines • 2010

The porn industry didn't just sell fantasy; it built the scripts now governing real-world intimacy.

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📼 Pornography Studies 📺 Media Criticism ⛓️ Sexual Exploitation 💋 Raunch Culture ✊ Anti-Porn Feminism

Pornland 89%

The porn industry didn't just sell fantasy; it built the scripts now governing real-world intimacy.

by Gail Dines 2010

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2k+ ratings

📼 Pornography Studies 📺 Media Criticism ⛓️ Sexual Exploitation 💋 Raunch Culture ✊ Anti-Porn Feminism

What Do Women Want? Adventures in the Science of Female Desire

by Daniel Bergner • 2013

The machines don't lie: women's desire is far more indiscriminate than we admit.

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🎯 Female Desire 🔬 Sex Research ✊ Sex-Positive Feminism 💔 Monogamy And Desire ⚖️ Sexual Double Standards

What Do Women Want? Adventures in the Science of Female Desire Summary

What Do Women Want? Adventures in the Science of Female Desire 89%

The machines don't lie: women's desire is far more indiscriminate than we admit.

by Daniel Bergner 2013

3.60

2k+ ratings

🎯 Female Desire 🔬 Sex Research ✊ Sex-Positive Feminism 💔 Monogamy And Desire ⚖️ Sexual Double Standards

A Billion Wicked Thoughts

by Ogi Ogas • 2011

A billion anonymous searches expose the true architecture of male and female desire.

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🧠 Evolutionary Psychology 💑 Mate Selection 🔥 Sexual Desire ⚡ Gender Differences 💻 Internet Data

A Billion Wicked Thoughts 89%

A billion anonymous searches expose the true architecture of male and female desire.

by Ogi Ogas 2011

3.83

4k+ ratings

🧠 Evolutionary Psychology 💑 Mate Selection 🔥 Sexual Desire ⚡ Gender Differences 💻 Internet Data

Sexing the Body

by Anne Fausto-Sterling • 2000

Nature gives us a spectrum of sexes. Medicine prunes it down to two.

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🔬 Feminist Science Studies 🌈 Intersex Advocacy 🏛️ Social Constructionism 🧠 Biological Essentialism 💉 Medical Ethics

Sexing the Body 89%

Nature gives us a spectrum of sexes. Medicine prunes it down to two.

by Anne Fausto-Sterling 2000

4.16

3k+ ratings

🔬 Feminist Science Studies 🌈 Intersex Advocacy 🏛️ Social Constructionism 🧠 Biological Essentialism 💉 Medical Ethics

Sex and Lies

by Leïla Slimani • 2017

Morocco demands female purity while excusing male excess. The women bearing the cost finally speak.

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🕌 Women In Islam 🔒 Virginity Culture 🔇 Sexual Repression 🎙️ Oral History 👮 Body Policing

Sex and Lies 89%

Morocco demands female purity while excusing male excess. The women bearing the cost finally speak.

by Leïla Slimani 2017

3.96

5k+ ratings

🕌 Women In Islam 🔒 Virginity Culture 🔇 Sexual Repression 🎙️ Oral History 👮 Body Policing

Boyslut

by Zachary Zane • 2023

Bisexual men disappear unless they shout. One manifesto for making your desires undeniable.

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😶 Sexual Shame 💜 Bisexuality ✨ Sex Positivity 🔄 Ethical Non-Monogamy ⛓️ Kink Exploration

Boyslut 89%

Bisexual men disappear unless they shout. One manifesto for making your desires undeniable.

by Zachary Zane 2023

3.77

2k+ ratings

😶 Sexual Shame 💜 Bisexuality ✨ Sex Positivity 🔄 Ethical Non-Monogamy ⛓️ Kink Exploration

Sex from Scratch

by Sarah Mirk • 2014

The relationship rulebook is optional. How to write your own, from singleness to parting.

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🪢 Ethical Non-Monogamy ✏️ Relationship Design ✊ Intersectional Feminism 🌈 Gender Spectrum 💔 Conscious Uncoupling

Sex from Scratch 89%

The relationship rulebook is optional. How to write your own, from singleness to parting.

by Sarah Mirk 2014

3.76

655 ratings

🪢 Ethical Non-Monogamy ✏️ Relationship Design ✊ Intersectional Feminism 🌈 Gender Spectrum 💔 Conscious Uncoupling

Sex Matters

by Mona Charen • 2018

Feminism won, yet women's happiness declined for fifty years. The data explains why.

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🔍 Feminism Critique 🧬 Sex Differences 🧠 Evolutionary Psychology 💍 Marriage Defense 🍸 Hookup Culture

Sex Matters 89%

Feminism won, yet women's happiness declined for fifty years. The data explains why.

by Mona Charen 2018

3.71

331 ratings

🔍 Feminism Critique 🧬 Sex Differences 🧠 Evolutionary Psychology 💍 Marriage Defense 🍸 Hookup Culture

She/He/They/Me

by Robyn Ryle • 2019

Pick a gender path and see where it leads: an interactive tour of the binary and beyond.

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🏗️ Gender Construction 👥 Gender Socialization 🌍 Third Gender Traditions 🗿 Patriarchy ⚧️ Intersex Rights

She/He/They/Me 89%

Pick a gender path and see where it leads: an interactive tour of the binary and beyond.

by Robyn Ryle 2019

3.40

545 ratings

🏗️ Gender Construction 👥 Gender Socialization 🌍 Third Gender Traditions 🗿 Patriarchy ⚧️ Intersex Rights

Ethical Porn for Dicks

by David J. Ley • 2016

Watch porn without the shame spiral. A clinical psychologist rewrites the rules for male sexuality.

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🧭 Sexual Ethics ♂️ Men's Sexuality 😳 Sexual Shame 💬 Porn Debate 💪 Positive Masculinity

Ethical Porn for Dicks 89%

Watch porn without the shame spiral. A clinical psychologist rewrites the rules for male sexuality.

by David J. Ley 2016

4.09

129 ratings

🧭 Sexual Ethics ♂️ Men's Sexuality 😳 Sexual Shame 💬 Porn Debate 💪 Positive Masculinity

The Global Sexual Revolution

by Gabriele Kuby • 2012

The global push for unlimited sexual rights is not freedom: it is a blueprint for total control.

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🕊️ Catholic Social Teaching 🔞 Sexual Ethics 🧬 Gender Ideology Critique 💍 Traditional Marriage 📵 Pornography Critique

The Global Sexual Revolution 89%

The global push for unlimited sexual rights is not freedom: it is a blueprint for total control.

by Gabriele Kuby 2012

4.30

163 ratings

🕊️ Catholic Social Teaching 🔞 Sexual Ethics 🧬 Gender Ideology Critique 💍 Traditional Marriage 📵 Pornography Critique

DIY

by Eric Sprankle • 2024

How masturbation became a sin, a disease, and a billion-dollar industry.

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🚫 Sexual Taboos 🧠 Sexual Myths 😳 Sexual Shame ⛪ Sex And Religion 🗽 Sexual Liberation

DIY 88%

How masturbation became a sin, a disease, and a billion-dollar industry.

by Eric Sprankle 2024

4.33

275 ratings

🚫 Sexual Taboos 🧠 Sexual Myths 😳 Sexual Shame ⛪ Sex And Religion 🗽 Sexual Liberation

Three Women

by Lisa Taddeo • 2019

Eight years inside three lives. What female desire actually looks like, and what it costs.

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🔥 Female Desire 💔 Sexual Trauma 💍 Marriage And Desire ⚖️ Power And Consent 😶 Desire And Shame

Three Women 88%

Eight years inside three lives. What female desire actually looks like, and what it costs.

by Lisa Taddeo 2019

3.71

174k+ ratings

🔥 Female Desire 💔 Sexual Trauma 💍 Marriage And Desire ⚖️ Power And Consent 😶 Desire And Shame

The Good Girl's Guide to Bad Girl Sex

by Barbara Keesling • 2001

Sexual confidence, step by step: from the underwear you wear to the way you walk.

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👩 Women's Sexuality 💪 Sexual Confidence 🔥 Erotic Self-Help 💔 Sexual Shame 💋 Seduction Techniques

The Good Girl's Guide to Bad Girl Sex Summary

The Good Girl's Guide to Bad Girl Sex 88%

Sexual confidence, step by step: from the underwear you wear to the way you walk.

by Barbara Keesling 2001

3.52

452 ratings

👩 Women's Sexuality 💪 Sexual Confidence 🔥 Erotic Self-Help 💔 Sexual Shame 💋 Seduction Techniques

The Ethical Slut

by Janet W. Hardy • 1997

How to love more than one person without deception: the rules, scripts, and hard conversations.

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🏳️‍🌈 Ethical Non-Monogamy 🔓 Open Relationships 💚 Jealousy Management 📝 Relationship Agreements 🌻 Sex Positivity

The Ethical Slut 88%

How to love more than one person without deception: the rules, scripts, and hard conversations.

by Janet W. Hardy 1997

3.94

28k+ ratings

🏳️‍🌈 Ethical Non-Monogamy 🔓 Open Relationships 💚 Jealousy Management 📝 Relationship Agreements 🌻 Sex Positivity

Tell Me What You Want

by Justin J. Lehmiller • 2018

Nearly every sexual fantasy turns out to be common. The real dysfunction is hiding from desire.

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🔬 Sex Research 💭 Sexual Fantasy 😔 Sexual Shame 🎢 Relationship Novelty 🧬 Evolutionary Psychology

Tell Me What You Want 88%

Nearly every sexual fantasy turns out to be common. The real dysfunction is hiding from desire.

by Justin J. Lehmiller 2018

3.82

1k+ ratings

🔬 Sex Research 💭 Sexual Fantasy 😔 Sexual Shame 🎢 Relationship Novelty 🧬 Evolutionary Psychology

Want

by Gillian Anderson • 2024

Women's secret sexual fantasies, from their own anonymous letters: a map of hidden desire.

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🔥 Female Desire 🤫 Sexual Fantasies 🧠 Psychology Of Sexuality 🗣️ Sexual Shame ⛓️ Kink And Fetish

Want 88%

Women's secret sexual fantasies, from their own anonymous letters: a map of hidden desire.

by Gillian Anderson 2024

3.37

23k+ ratings

🔥 Female Desire 🤫 Sexual Fantasies 🧠 Psychology Of Sexuality 🗣️ Sexual Shame ⛓️ Kink And Fetish

Opening Up

by Tristan Taormino • 2007

Communication makes open relationships work. Get the scripts, the jealousy tools, the safety rules.

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🧩 Ethical Nonmonogamy 🗣️ Radical Honesty 💚 Jealousy Management 🩺 Safer Sex Education 🌈 Sex Positivity

Opening Up 88%

Communication makes open relationships work. Get the scripts, the jealousy tools, the safety rules.

by Tristan Taormino 2007

4.07

4k+ ratings

🧩 Ethical Nonmonogamy 🗣️ Radical Honesty 💚 Jealousy Management 🩺 Safer Sex Education 🌈 Sex Positivity

Beyond My Control

by Nancy Friday • 2009

The forbidden fuels us. Nancy Friday reveals the secret fantasies millions share but never voice.

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🧠 Pop Psychology 💭 Sexual Fantasy 👩 Female Desire 🚫 Taboo Fantasies 🔗 Dominance And Submission

Beyond My Control 88%

The forbidden fuels us. Nancy Friday reveals the secret fantasies millions share but never voice.

by Nancy Friday 2009

3.35

198 ratings

🧠 Pop Psychology 💭 Sexual Fantasy 👩 Female Desire 🚫 Taboo Fantasies 🔗 Dominance And Submission

Feel It All

by Casey Tanner • 2024

Sexual insecurity isn't a personal flaw. It's the predictable echo of systemic neglect.

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🫂 Sexual Healing 🧘 Somatic Therapy 🧱 Attachment Theory ⚖️ Systemic Oppression 🔇 Sexual Shame

Feel It All 88%

Sexual insecurity isn't a personal flaw. It's the predictable echo of systemic neglect.

by Casey Tanner 2024

4.20

996 ratings

🫂 Sexual Healing 🧘 Somatic Therapy 🧱 Attachment Theory ⚖️ Systemic Oppression 🔇 Sexual Shame

Just F*ck Me! - What Women Want Men to Know About Taking Control in the Bedroom (A Guide for Couples) - Revised Edition

by Eve Kingsley • 2008

Pleasure she can't ask for: introduce dominance through dirty talk, safe words, reading her signals.

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🗣️ Sexual Communication 💑 Couples Sexuality 💬 Dirty Talk 😳 Sexual Shame ✊ Sex-Positive Feminism

Just F*ck Me! - What Women Want Men to Know About Taking Control in the Bedroom (A Guide for Couples) - Revised Edition Summary

Just F*ck Me! - What Women Want Men to Know About Taking Control in the Bedroom (A Guide for Couples) - Revised Edition 88%

Pleasure she can't ask for: introduce dominance through dirty talk, safe words, reading her signals.

by Eve Kingsley 2008

3.33

163 ratings

🗣️ Sexual Communication 💑 Couples Sexuality 💬 Dirty Talk 😳 Sexual Shame ✊ Sex-Positive Feminism

The Joy of Sex

by Alex Comfort • 1972

A couple's manual for erotic skill, honest talk, and the play that deepens with every decade.

3.62

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🛠️ Sexual Technique ✨ Sex Positivity 🕰️ Aging And Sexuality 💬 Sexual Communication 🎭 Erotic Play

The Joy of Sex 88%

A couple's manual for erotic skill, honest talk, and the play that deepens with every decade.

by Alex Comfort 1972

3.62

3k+ ratings

🛠️ Sexual Technique ✨ Sex Positivity 🕰️ Aging And Sexuality 💬 Sexual Communication 🎭 Erotic Play

Hot and Unbothered

by Yana Tallon-Hicks • 2022

Your sex life improves when you stop performing and start asking for what you actually want.

4.27

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🎓 Sex Education 🗣️ Sexual Communication 🌈 Pleasure Advocacy 🔓 Sexual Shame 🧠 Cognitive Reframing

Hot and Unbothered 88%

Your sex life improves when you stop performing and start asking for what you actually want.

by Yana Tallon-Hicks 2022

4.27

298 ratings

🎓 Sex Education 🗣️ Sexual Communication 🌈 Pleasure Advocacy 🔓 Sexual Shame 🧠 Cognitive Reframing

Becoming Cliterate

by Laurie Mintz • 2017

64% of women orgasm vs 91% of men. The gap has one overlooked cause, and it's fixable.

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🩺 Female Sexuality 📚 Sexual Education ✊ Feminist Sexuality 🔬 Sexual Anatomy 👐 Masturbation

Becoming Cliterate 88%

64% of women orgasm vs 91% of men. The gap has one overlooked cause, and it's fixable.

by Laurie Mintz 2017

4.26

3k+ ratings

🩺 Female Sexuality 📚 Sexual Education ✊ Feminist Sexuality 🔬 Sexual Anatomy 👐 Masturbation

How To Think More About Sex

by Alain de Botton • 2012

Love and desire often can't coexist. The problem isn't you; it's the ideal.

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🧠 Sexual Psychology 💘 Modern Love 🧩 Relationship Realism 📽️ Pornography Critique 📚 Philosophical Self-Help

How To Think More About Sex 88%

Love and desire often can't coexist. The problem isn't you; it's the ideal.

by Alain de Botton 2012

3.47

6k+ ratings

🧠 Sexual Psychology 💘 Modern Love 🧩 Relationship Realism 📽️ Pornography Critique 📚 Philosophical Self-Help

Sex After . . .

by Iris Krasnow • 2014

Best sex at seventy. Desire after cancer. Affairs that save marriages. Candid stories of intimacy.

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🗣️ Female Sexuality 🎙️ Oral History 🍂 Menopause And Sex ⏳ Sexual Aging 🩹 Sexual Healing

Sex After . . . 88%

Best sex at seventy. Desire after cancer. Affairs that save marriages. Candid stories of intimacy.

by Iris Krasnow 2014

3.53

148 ratings

🗣️ Female Sexuality 🎙️ Oral History 🍂 Menopause And Sex ⏳ Sexual Aging 🩹 Sexual Healing

Sex at Dawn

by Christopher Ryan • 2010

Monogamy is a recent agricultural invention. Our bodies and desires never agreed to it.

3.97

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🧬 Human Sexuality 🦚 Sexual Selection 💞 Non-Monogamy 🌾 Agriculture And Society 👩‍🔬 Female Sexuality

Sex at Dawn 88%

Monogamy is a recent agricultural invention. Our bodies and desires never agreed to it.

by Christopher Ryan 2010

3.97

32k+ ratings

🧬 Human Sexuality 🦚 Sexual Selection 💞 Non-Monogamy 🌾 Agriculture And Society 👩‍🔬 Female Sexuality

The Case of the Female Orgasm

by Elisabeth A. Lloyd • 2005

Female orgasm is nature's spare part: a developmental echo of the penis that science misinterpreted.

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🧬 Evolutionary Biology ♀️ Female Sexuality 🛠️ Adaptationism 📖 Just-So Stories 🔬 Feminist Science Studies

The Case of the Female Orgasm 88%

Female orgasm is nature's spare part: a developmental echo of the penis that science misinterpreted.

by Elisabeth A. Lloyd 2005

3.97

124 ratings

🧬 Evolutionary Biology ♀️ Female Sexuality 🛠️ Adaptationism 📖 Just-So Stories 🔬 Feminist Science Studies

Hard-Core Romance

by Eva Illouz • 2013

A sociologist explains why Fifty Shades conquered the world: BDSM solves what modern romance cannot.

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📚 Sociology Of Literature 🎭 Cultural Criticism ⚡ Sexual Politics 💕 Modern Courtship 🛠️ Self-Help Culture

Hard-Core Romance 88%

A sociologist explains why Fifty Shades conquered the world: BDSM solves what modern romance cannot.

by Eva Illouz 2013

3.51

283 ratings

📚 Sociology Of Literature 🎭 Cultural Criticism ⚡ Sexual Politics 💕 Modern Courtship 🛠️ Self-Help Culture

The Femdom Experience

by Elise Sutton • 2006

How to build a female-led relationship that doesn't collapse once the novelty wears off.

4.04

⛓️ D/S Dynamics 👑 Female-Led Relationships 🏠 Lifestyle BDSM 🦌 Cuckolding 🙇 Sexual Submission

The Femdom Experience 88%

How to build a female-led relationship that doesn't collapse once the novelty wears off.

by Elise Sutton 2006

4.04

98 ratings

⛓️ D/S Dynamics 👑 Female-Led Relationships 🏠 Lifestyle BDSM 🦌 Cuckolding 🙇 Sexual Submission

Sounds Fake But Okay

by Sarah Costello • 2023

Remove attraction from the center, and relationships, romance, and sex look entirely different.

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1k+

🖤 Asexuality 💚 Aromanticism 💛 Platonic Intimacy 🔀 Relationship Anarchy 📚 Queer Theory

Sounds Fake But Okay 88%

Remove attraction from the center, and relationships, romance, and sex look entirely different.

by Sarah Costello 2023

3.66

1k+ ratings

🖤 Asexuality 💚 Aromanticism 💛 Platonic Intimacy 🔀 Relationship Anarchy 📚 Queer Theory

The Come as You Are Workbook

by Emily Nagoski • 2019

Science-backed exercises mapping sexual response and clearing what blocks your path to pleasure.

4.19

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🌸 Women's Sexuality 🧘 Sexual Wellbeing 💖 Body Acceptance 📜 Cultural Scripts 🛋️ Modern Sex Therapy

The Come as You Are Workbook 88%

Science-backed exercises mapping sexual response and clearing what blocks your path to pleasure.

by Emily Nagoski 2019

4.19

383 ratings

🌸 Women's Sexuality 🧘 Sexual Wellbeing 💖 Body Acceptance 📜 Cultural Scripts 🛋️ Modern Sex Therapy

Libido Dominandi

by E. Michael Jones • 1999

The sexual revolution didn't free us. It handed the controllers a new way to own our desires.

4.28

292

🚻 Sexual Politics 🧠 Social Engineering 📖 History Of Sexuality 📢 Advertising And Desire 🧬 Eugenics History

Libido Dominandi 88%

The sexual revolution didn't free us. It handed the controllers a new way to own our desires.

by E. Michael Jones 1999

4.28

292 ratings

🚻 Sexual Politics 🧠 Social Engineering 📖 History Of Sexuality 📢 Advertising And Desire 🧬 Eugenics History

Sex for One

by Betty Dodson • 1996

Self-pleasure as the foundation, not the fallback: the method that taught a generation to climax.

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🎯 Female Orgasm 🔒 Sexual Shame 🪞 Body Acceptance ✊ Sex-Positive Feminism 📜 Second-Wave Feminism

Sex for One 88%

Self-pleasure as the foundation, not the fallback: the method that taught a generation to climax.

by Betty Dodson 1996

4.08

1k+ ratings

🎯 Female Orgasm 🔒 Sexual Shame 🪞 Body Acceptance ✊ Sex-Positive Feminism 📜 Second-Wave Feminism

Sperm Wars

by Robin Baker • 1996

The bedroom is an evolutionary arena. Your body knows the rules, even if you don't.

3.91

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🧠 Evolutionary Psychology 🧬 Sperm Competition 💔 Infidelity ⚔️ Sexual Conflict ❤️ Mate Selection

Sperm Wars 88%

The bedroom is an evolutionary arena. Your body knows the rules, even if you don't.

by Robin Baker 1996

3.91

3k+ ratings

🧠 Evolutionary Psychology 🧬 Sperm Competition 💔 Infidelity ⚔️ Sexual Conflict ❤️ Mate Selection

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